Disclaimer & Ground Rules

This House — THE HOUSE OF ZAN — runs on intensity, honesty, and kink.

It does not run on pretending I’m something I’m not.

This page exists so the obvious is written down.


Adults Only

Everything in this House — words, images, contact, and any form of engagement with me — is for adults 18+ only.

If you are under 18, you do not have my permission to:

  • read my work in full
  • contact me
  • send or request any explicit content
  • present yourself as a potential submissive or partner

If I find out you’re a minor, I will block and disengage immediately. No exceptions.


Not Therapy, Not Professional Advice

I write about:

  • trauma, memory, obsession, and bad decisions
  • power exchange, lifestyle dynamics, and emotional wreckage

I am not:

  • your therapist
  • your doctor
  • your lawyer
  • a crisis worker

Nothing I say should be taken as:

  • medical advice
  • mental health treatment
  • legal guidance
  • a substitute for professional care

Take anything I say as one man’s perspective and lived experience, not as clinical fact or a diagnosis.

If you’re struggling with your mental health, talk to an actual professional in your area.  

You can bring my words to therapy. You can’t replace therapy with my words.


Content, Not Instructions

My writing is:

  • perspective
  • storytelling
  • philosophy
  • sometimes filth on purpose

It is not:

  • a safety manual
  • a training program
  • a comprehensive BDSM education

Kink carries risk.  

If you choose to try anything related to BDSM, you are responsible for:

  • educating yourself beyond my content
  • learning proper safety practices
  • communicating clearly with your partners
  • obtaining explicit, ongoing, enthusiastic consent

If you hurt yourself or someone else because you treated a sentence of mine like a step-by-step guide, that is on you, not me.

I can describe what I’ve seen, done, or imagined; I can’t make it safe for you in your life, with your body, your partners, and your laws. That part is always yours.


Stories, Privacy & Anonymity

Any stories, examples, or past dynamics I reference are:

  • anonymized
  • altered
  • or composite

The Cycles and The Hidden Girl are deliberately stylized and composite by design; they echo real patterns and feelings, not one-for-one transcripts of any individual person.

I do not expose people’s legal names, identifying details, or private material.

If you recognize yourself in anything I write, it’s because we shared something real — not because I’m trying to put you on blast.

I expect the same consideration in return: no doxxing, no sharing private logs, no turning private interactions into public spectacle.


Crisis & Self-Harm

I write about dark feelings. I understand obsession, despair, and wanting to disappear.

I am not a crisis line.

I can’t guarantee I’ll see a message quickly, respond at all, or say what you need in an emergency.

If you are:

  • actively thinking about hurting yourself
  • in immediate danger
  • unable to keep yourself safe

do not aim that at me or this House.

Reach out to:

  • emergency services in your area
  • a crisis hotline
  • a trusted friend, family member, or professional

I am one man with a House, not a hospital.


Your Responsibility

By choosing to read, follow, or interact with House of ZAN, you are agreeing that:

  • you are 18+
  • you are responsible for your own choices, online and offline
  • you understand this content is for adults who can think critically, not for people looking for someone to make all their decisions for them
  • you will not hold me responsible for how you choose to interpret or act on what I write
  • you understand that reading my work, joining my server, or subscribing anywhere does not automatically put you in a dynamic, relationship, or contract with me
  • you accept that platforms I use (Discord, OnlyFans, X/Twitter, etc.) have their own rules and moderation I don’t control and can’t shield you from

I offer words, presence, and sometimes connection.  

I do not offer guarantees, cures, or absolution.

If you stay, stay with your eyes open.


Privacy & Access

I share a lot here on purpose. I also keep parts of my life, history, and relationships offline on purpose — for other people’s privacy and safety as much as my own.

I reserve the right not to answer questions that dig into places I don’t want public, and I don’t owe further explanation when I say “no” or go quiet. Curiosity is welcome; entitlement is not.

In closer, built dynamics I may share more of myself directly and intentionally — but that’s negotiated in private, not guaranteed by reading me in public.

Here’s the part that matters most:

Everything above is true. I stand by it.

The closest thing to a lie on this page is the idea that a disclaimer can protect you from yourself. It can’t. No paragraph on a screen is stronger than what you’re already willing to feel, to want, or to do.

All this does is mark where my responsibility ends and yours begins.

If you felt safer after reading this, notice that.

If you felt more excited after reading this, notice that harder.

The danger was never just The House of ZAN.

It’s the part of you that read every warning and still thought, “Yes. Still.”

Companion track: “Our Lawyer Made Us Change the Name of This Song So We Wouldn’t Get Sued” – Fall Out Boy