Pluto Reversal (Never Say Never)… (1-19) – Commentary

Pluto Reversal (Never Say Never) opens with the exact level of whiplash this topic deserves:

I hate when toilet water splashes up my asshole.

Anyway…

That splash line is there to do what hearing “age-gap relationship” often does in public:

  • instant recoil,
  • disgust,
  • everyone suddenly very loud with opinions.

Then I pivot to:

“I would say, in some cases, that I favor age-gap relationships between an older man and a younger adult partner (always 18+).”

The post is me walking straight into a radioactive topic and refusing to pretend it’s simple.

The splash vs. the flinch

The toilet-water opener isn’t random gross-out humor. It’s a calibration shock.

Most people hear:

  • “older man + younger person”

and their brains go:

  • “predator,”
  • “victim,”
  • or “nothing to see here, age is just a number.”

Both extremes flatten the reality:

  • Some older partners are absolutely predatory.
  • Some age-gap dynamics are deeply consensual, stabilizing, and mutually chosen.
  • A lot of it lives in the messy middle where power, trauma, desire, and timing all collide.

That first line is me saying:

“Yeah, I know exactly how this is going to hit you. Let’s not pretend we’re calm about it.”

Then:

Anyway…

is the pivot into the actual thesis.

Why I admit I like some age gaps

I don’t dodge it:

“I favor age-gap relationships between an older man and a younger adult partner…”

Key words there:

  • younger adult partner
  • always 18+

I’m not trying to “well actually” my way around that.

I’m saying:

  • I do find some of those dynamics hot.
  • I do think they can be emotionally real, not just fetish fuel.
  • I also know that admitting that puts me under a harsher microscope within this piece.

Then I bring in the context:

“They have more access to information, more language for what’s happening to them, and more ways to call bullshit.”

That’s not me declaring:

  • “See, it’s all fine now.”

It’s me acknowledging:

  • A 20-year-old today is not the same as a 20-year-old with no internet, no discourse, no community.
  • They’re still vulnerable. But they’re not as trapped by ignorance as previous generations.

I’m trying to hold both:

  • heightened agency,
  • and ongoing risk.

Emotional development and “scientifical” proof

When I talk about:

“women tend to advance quicker than men… emotional intelligence…”

and then drop:

“I believe there is ‘scientifical’ proof…”

that misspelling is on purpose.

It’s me side-eyeing the kind of pop-science people throw around to justify whatever they’re already horny for:

  • “The female brain matures X years faster…”
  • “Studies show younger women prefer older men…”

I’m not saying:

  • “The data proves my kink is holy.”

I’m saying:

“There are legitimate reasons some age-gap relationships work—and I’m not going to pretend I don’t find some of them compelling—but if your only ‘proof’ is a TikTok and a podcast quote, maybe slow down on declaring yourself ordained.”

The important line is this:

“None of this makes age-gap dynamics automatically safe. If you can’t hold that power without abusing it or being swallowed by it, don’t touch it.”

That’s the hinge of the piece:

  • Age gap = increased power differential.
  • More power = more responsibility, not more permission.
  • If that power lights up your worst traits—control issues, narcissism, hunger for obedience at any cost—you shouldn’t be anywhere near it.

“Daddy Issues” and the fake PSA

The joke section:

“Or, it could all be ‘Daddy Issues’.

If you or someone you know is experiencing ‘Daddy Issues’, please contact the person of this profile…”

is me parodying the way people weaponize that phrase:

  • as shorthand for “stupid, damaged girl,”
  • as a punchline instead of a wound.

I’m doing two things at once:

  1. Mocking the reduction
    • Taking complex histories of neglect, abuse, or emotional starvation
    • And shrinking them into a meme diagnosis.
  2. Leaning into my own villainy, then undercutting it
    • “Only YOU can prevent feelings of fatherly abuse…”
    • “…send a message and we can fucker-it out together.”

I’m not selling myself as the cure.

I’m showing how easy it is for an older man to:

  • acknowledge the wound in a single phrase,
  • and then immediately pivot to sex, as if:

    “If we fuck about it, that counts as healing.”

The misspelling—“fucker-it out”—is deliberate.

It’s crude, funny, and wrong in a way that should make something in you stutter.

If you feel both:

  • “That’s hot in a terrible way,” and
  • “Okay, that’s… not actually a treatment plan,”

then the tension is doing what it’s supposed to.

How I want this to land

This isn’t:

  • “Age-gap relationships are bad and you’re gross if you like them.”

This also isn’t:

  • “Age is just a number, stop being dramatic.”

It’s me saying:

  • I’m attracted to certain age-gap dynamics.
  • I understand some of the emotional logic behind them.
  • I refuse to pretend they’re inherently safe or inherently doomed.
  • If I step into one, I am carrying more weight, not less.

If you’ve ever:

  • been the younger partner and felt both chosen and slightly hunted,
  • or the older one and wondered if you’re helping or just reenacting someone’s wound—

this piece is me standing in that discomfort with you, not above you.

And yeah, still making a toilet joke on the way in.

On the companion track: “Never Say Never” – That Dog

“Never Say Never” sits here because it’s:

  • messy,
  • repetitive,
  • half-plea, half-ultimatum.

It has that:

  • “I know this is bad for me but I can’t fully walk away” energy
  • that so many age-gap or power-imbalanced connections carry.

It’s the soundtrack to:

  • going back,
  • “just one more time,”
  • to the person you know might not be good for you—
    because some part of you still wants what they represent.

It also fits the quieter, slower version of this:

the people who swear, “Never again. Not my thing. Not for me,”
and then, years later, meet someone who scrambles all those rules.

Not because they went looking for an age-gap dynamic,
but because the connection arrived wearing that shape anyway.

Paired with this piece, it underlines the real thesis:

These dynamics are dangerous not because they never work,
but because the parts of you that want them are loud, old,
and very good at talking you into “never say never.”

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