Back (Track)… (1-14) – Commentary

Back (Track) is the moment where I stop letting my “About” section speak in dating-app bullet points and instead turn it into an essay:

“Here’s what I mean by Master.
Here’s what I mean by slave.
Here’s how I move. Take it or leave it.”

It’s not me trying to seem bigger.
It’s me trying to be clearer.

What this piece is actually doing

On the surface, this reads like:

  • a clarification of terms (Master, slave, sub, little),
  • a pre-emptive answer to common misunderstandings,
  • a bit of “if you don’t get it, you can politely fuck off.”

Underneath, it’s:

  1. Reframing “slave” as bond, not cage.
  2. Defining “Master” as responsibility, not cartoon villain.
  3. Setting the tone for who I’m interested in and how I’ll treat them.

This used to sit in my About because it’s the foundation:

“Before you decide you’re into me, understand what I’m actually offering and asking.”

Now, next to the writings, it reads more like a key to the rest of the work.

Slave as bond, not prison

I start here on purpose:

“A slave, within the kink space, does not mean imprisonment or being forced against someone’s will – at least not to me.”

That line is doing a lot of work:

  • it separates my use of the word from:
    • porn,
    • bad Doms,
    • trauma stories.
  • it anchors everything in consent and choice.

When I say:

“it’s a catch-all concept for the type of bond I’m seeking to establish”

I’m quietly rewriting the mental image:

  • not chains → bond
  • not trap → chosen, total devotion
  • not “you’re stuck with me” → “we’re intentionally building something all-consuming”

Then:

“People change over time. I’ve been in dynamics that started as M/s and then shifted into DD/lg, and vice versa.”

That’s me:

  • admitting flexibility,
  • acknowledging growth,
  • refusing to freeze anyone in one label forever.

The important part:

“I’m not here to ‘convert’ anyone into a slave – some people simply discover that the dynamic they were seeking lines up with mine.”

Translation:

  • I’m not running a cult.
  • I’m not hunting for blank canvases.
  • I’m looking for people whose natural gravity pulls toward what I’m already built for.

Master as responsibility, not stereotype

I hit the “Master” label just as hard:

“When I say I am a Master, it does not mean that I’m a brute, a mindless sadist, or unstable.”

I’m pushing against two lazy extremes:

  • the edgelord Dom:
    • cruel for fun,
    • allergic to care,
    • thinks patience is weakness;
  • and the fantasy-projection Dom:
    • forced into someone’s pre-written script,
    • punished if he doesn’t act like their fanfic.

Hence:

“It also doesn’t mean I’m ‘shattering your image’ of what a Master is supposed to be if I don’t fit whatever peg-hole stereotype you’re attached to.”

If your idea of “real Master” =
always cold, always cruel, always distant, always unreadable—

yeah, you’re going to hate that I’m:

  • kind in chat,
  • thoughtful in writing,
  • openly intelligent and emotional.

That’s why I drop:

“If me coming across as kind, friendly, and intelligent… somehow makes me seem less authentic to you because I take the role of Master, you can, politely, fuck yourself.”

That’s not just attitude.

That’s a filter:

  • If you need a cardboard cutout of “Dom,” I’m not your man.
  • If you can handle someone who’s both:
    • romantic and ruthless,
    • soft-spoken and absolute once you’re inside—

then we might actually have something to talk about.

Metamorphosis and consent

The line that matters most to me here:

“The moment you willingly let me inside your mind, we’ll break the concept of ‘you’ and rebuild as you and I see fit. The metamorphosis can be beautiful – but never without explicit, ongoing consent.”

That’s my whole ethic in one breath:

  • Yes, I’m interested in:
    • identity change,
    • devotion,
    • rewiring,
    • deep, mind-level shifts.
  • No, I’m not interested in doing that:
    • against your will,
    • without clarity,
    • or with one “yes” that never gets revisited.

“Explicit, ongoing consent” means:

  • not just:
    • “you said yes once; I’m good forever.”
  • but:
    • continued check-ins,
    • space to renegotiate,
    • room for you to say “this was my fantasy then; it doesn’t fit me now.”

Metamorphosis is only beautiful if both of us are awake for it.

Ghosts, doors, and how I move online

“Until someone actually takes the time and effort to build a dynamic with me, they’re just ghosts.”

That’s about investment:

  • likes, flirts, and half-messages aren’t “relationship progress.”
  • long paragraphs without follow-through = static.

Still, I commit:

“Nevertheless, I’ll treat everyone with respect and make myself available. I will be open-minded, and I will listen to anyone serious about what they say they’re seeking.”

Boundaried, not bitter.

I’m not here to:

  • love-bomb you,
  • ignore you,
  • then complain about “how the scene sucks.”

I’m here to:

  • show up for serious people,
  • ignore the time-wasters,
  • and let my consistency be its own proof.

That leads into the door metaphor:

“If I wrote you, the door is open.
If you wrote me, I’ll decide whether to open the door.”

Which means:

  • if I reach out:
    • I’m signaling genuine interest,
    • I’m offering my attention as a real resource.
  • if you reach out:
    • I’ll still respect your time,
    • but I’m not obligated to open a portal just because you knocked.

There’s no “customer is always right” above the door.

What I offer, beyond kink

The last set of invitations matter:

“If you want more than your next inbox ghost, say so.
If you want me to help you understand a part of the lifestyle, don’t guess at my qualifications – ask me.
If you want to know how to sell creator content without looking like a fool, don’t try to sell me – ask me.”

That’s:

  • M/s,
  • mentorship,
  • and marketing brain,
  • all on the table.

I’m not just “Master who wants a slave.”

I’m also:

  • someone who understands:
    • content,
    • branding,
    • platforms,
    • the unsexy business side of desire;

and I’m willing to share that, if you’re honest about what you want.

Even:

“If you’re a whiny little slut begging to be collared, don’t hold back – show me.”

is doing double duty:

  • it keeps the voice filthy and “on-brand”,
  • it also says:
    • “If that’s really you, don’t come in coy and half-pretending. Bring the real thing or don’t bring it.”

How this positions me in the larger work

In the context of everything else I’ve written, Back (Track) is:

  • a reset button:
    • “Okay, you’ve seen the poems, the predators, the metaphors — here’s how I actually define what I’m doing here.”
  • a boundary marker:
    • I’m not a mindless sadist.
    • I’m not a soft-focus Daddy influencer.
    • I’m not going to contort myself into your stereotype of “real Dom.”
  • an invitation:
    • If you want:
    • depth,
    • structure,
    • guidance,
    • long-arc devotion,
    • you’re allowed to say that plainly.

If this piece hits you as:

“Oh. He’s not playing at Master to impress me; he’s living in it and inviting me to find out who he could be to me,”

that’s exactly what it’s supposed to do.

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