Getting Ahead… (1-11) – Commentary

If you made it through Getting Ahead without at least once thinking,

“Wait… who actually has the power here?”

then the piece did its job a little too well.

This one is very Cycle I brain: playful, horny, manipulative on purpose, built like a logic puzzle that slowly tightens your throat.

What this piece is actually doing

On the surface, it’s:

  • a rant about blowjobs,
  • a Dom insisting on enthusiasm and skill,
  • a breakdown of who “really” controls oral sex.

Underneath, it’s:

  1. A mind control exercise in plain sight.
  2. A demonstration of how predators use “we think the same” language to get past your guard.
  3. A contrast between “I’m just talking about technique” and “I’m quietly rewriting your idea of consent.”

Every “Anyone would agree…” / “You may think…” / “Obviously, if you think of yourself as a cocksucker…” line is doing persuasion work:

  • collapsing your thoughts into my thoughts,
  • blurring the line between what you want and what I want from you.

That’s not an accident. That’s the point.

The “you’re in control… until you’re not” trap

The first half is all:

“The cocksucker is always the 1 in control.”

It lists:

  • rhythm
  • speed
  • tightness
  • presentation
  • location

as ways the person with their mouth on the cock actually drives the whole thing.

That’s true in a lot of ways:

  • You can always pull back.
  • You can always stop.
  • You literally have their most vulnerable part in your teeth.

So far, so empowering.

Then, quietly, the piece flips:

“However, this would not hold true if the act of Face Fucking was introduced into the equation. In this act, if performed to specification, the cocksucker would not have any control. Your control would be surrendered, or taken, by any cock, including my cock.”

That line is there on purpose to make your brain go:

  • “Well…I already agreed with all the other stuff…”
  • “I do like being controlled…”
  • “Maybe this is just the next logical step.”

The “surrendered, or taken” phrasing is the tell:

  • surrendered = chosen
  • taken = not chosen

A predator will happily slide both under the same umbrella.

The piece is written from the inside of that voice — the one that wants to convince you that:

“If you’re really a good cocksucker, you’ll end up here with me.”

It’s not teaching you how to be safe.
It’s showing you how unsafe people talk when they’re being charming.

Why this one lives behind a paywall

Cycle I has a lot of experimental, “let me show you the monster from the monster’s POV” writing.

This one, uncensored, is:

  • graphic,
  • manipulative on purpose,
  • and wearing the clothes of “helpful instruction.”

Putting it behind a paywall does a few things:

  • Adds friction: you have to choose to go in.
  • Keeps it out of random algorithm feeds without context.
  • Lets it exist as an advanced text, not a starter pack for people who are just figuring out what D/s is.

If you’re reading it here, you’re already in the deeper end of the pool.

How this fits my voice now

Through the current lens (later-cycle voice), here’s what I’m clearer about:

  • I still believe:
    • enthusiasm matters,
    • technique matters,
    • the person using their body on someone is never “powerless.”
  • But I’m less interested in:
    • blurring the line between “we both want this” and “I’ve talked you into wanting it for me.”

Now, if I wrote the same idea, there would be much sharper lines like:

“Face fucking only works if you want to give up control — and you can take it back any time. If you can’t pull away, it’s not a scene, it’s a problem.”

The mind-control vibe in this piece is deliberate and cautionary:

  • It shows how a charming, confident Dom voice can:
    • constantly say “anyone would agree”
    • tell you that you’re the one in control
    • and then pivot to taking that control as proof of your devotion.

If you ever feel that pattern in real life—online, in DMs, in scenes—and your body goes a little cold?

Maybe listen to your body.

What I’d want you to take from it now

If you’re a submissive / service-leaning person reading this:

  • Your mouth, your body, your reactions = not community property.
  • If someone talks to you like this piece does, real-time, and it feels like your thoughts are being replaced with theirs:
    • you’re not weak,
    • you’re not stupid,
    • you’re in the presence of somebody who knows how to press on the soft spots.

That can be hot in a consensual, clearly negotiated dynamic.

It can also be a red flag in the wrong hands.

This piece is me as:

“the devil doing a TED Talk about blowjobs,”

so that later, in other posts, I can be:

“the one pointing at that same language and going: see this? this is how they get you.”

If you walked away from Getting Ahead both turned on and slightly unnerved?

Good.

That’s exactly where I like you:

turned on enough to understand the pull, awake enough to still choose.

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